Overcommitting

Learning to Pause. Questions you can ask yourself.

Many of us learn to go with what others think or expect from us as children. We disconnect in many forms from who we truly are. We live our lives in a place of discomfort, anxiety, and, at moments, sadness.

Overcommitting can lead to several negative consequences, such as:

Poor quality work: When you have too many commitments, you may not have enough time or resources to devote to each one properly, resulting in subpar outcomes.

Stress and burnout: Trying to juggle too many tasks and responsibilities can lead to increased stress levels and eventual burnout, negatively impacting your mental and physical health.

Strained relationships: Constantly breaking promises or not being able to follow through on commitments can strain relationships with colleagues, friends, and family members who rely on you.

Missed opportunities: Focusing on too many things at once may cause you to miss out on important opportunities or fail to fully capitalize on the ones you do pursue.

To avoid overcommitting, it’s essential to practice effective time management, prioritize tasks, learn to say no when necessary, and maintain realistic expectations about what you can reasonably accomplish within a given timeframe.

I invite give you some questions to reflect, and check what changes need to be made:

In what moments have I felt over-committing? In what moments is it hard for me to say no? How do I usually get after saying yes when it was a truly a no? Is there any place where I can set my boundaries? In what area?
Is there any place where I can set my boundaries?
In what area?
Do you remember when you stayed in your ground and chose yourself?
How did you felt? Do you want to have more of those moments?

To start thinking about you, first, you must connect with yourself and ask yourself daily: