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WHEN WE EXPERIENCE HEARTBREAK

When we experience heartbreak, our bodies go through a range of physical responses that can be quite intense and draining. Here’s a breakdown of what happens:
1. Activation of Pain Centers: Heartbreak activates the same areas of the brain as physical pain, as shown by fMRI scans. This means that emotionally, a broken heart can feel similar to a physical injury like a stab wound. The anxiety that accompanies heartbreak can intensify this perception of pain.
2. Grieving Process: Psychologist Eva Rüger explains that the end of a relationship is akin to experiencing a loss. We grieve not only for our ex-partner but also for the future we had envisioned with them. This grieving process can include phases of shock, numbness, despair, sadness, anger, and significant anxiety, and eventually, a hopeful outlook towards the future. Each stage of grief can be accompanied by varying levels of anxiety.
3. Physical Symptoms: The emotional turmoil of heartbreak often manifests physically. Common symptoms include crying, stomach aches, and a general feeling of exhaustion. These responses are a result of the body’s attempt to process the emotional pain and anxiety. The physical symptoms can exacerbate the anxiety, creating a cycle of distress.
4.Impact on Brain Chemistry: Breakups can also affect the balance of neurotransmitters in your brain, such as dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin. These chemicals play crucial roles in regulating mood, pleasure, and social bonding. The sudden withdrawal of these neurotransmitters, particularly if you were deeply attached to your partner, can contribute to feelings of sadness, heightened anxiety, and even physical discomfort. The anxiety caused by this chemical imbalance can be overwhelming.
5.Stress Hormones: The stress of a breakup can lead to an increase in cortisol levels, the primary stress hormone. Elevated cortisol levels can disrupt sleep patterns, weaken the immune system, and contribute to mood swings and anxiety. Managing stress through relaxation techniques, exercise, and social support can help regulate cortisol levels and reduce anxiety, promoting emotional well-being.
6.Attachment System: Breakups can activate the brain’s attachment system, which governs our emotional bonds with others. When a relationship ends, the brain may perceive it as a threat to our sense of security and belonging, triggering feelings of grief, loss, and anxiety. Understanding that these feelings are a natural response to separation can help validate your emotions and facilitate the healing process, reducing anxiety over time.
Therapy can help you to process all the emotions that you go through during a breakup, including the anxiety and distress. A therapist can provide the resources to gain confidence and be more in control of your life. We are here for you to help navigate the anxiety and emotional challenges of a breakup.

Remember: This content does not seek to replace psychological therapy. If you think you need help, go to a psychologist...
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